This whole working mom thing...is hard. It was even hard being a stay @ home mom for the 12 weeks I was on maternity leave. I feel like I just expect too much out of myself. It's not anyone else expecting anything...well except Turner expecting me to feed him and be the best mama I can be too him.
I have these high expectations that the house should always be clean and 'perfect'. I seriously feel a calm come over me when it is...but trying to keep up with that plus being somewhat of a single mom during the fall is draining (Tate's coaching football and usually doesn't get home until Turner's in bed).
I have these high expectations that the house should always be clean and 'perfect'. I seriously feel a calm come over me when it is...but trying to keep up with that plus being somewhat of a single mom during the fall is draining (Tate's coaching football and usually doesn't get home until Turner's in bed).
It doesn't help that I have now come to hates Mya's shedding ways...I'll hate it even more when Turner is mobile. Now that the season has finally changed, I think it's calmed down a bit...but it still drives me crazy.
I'm still learning on how to balance it all right now. I feel like once I figure it out is when Tate will be done coaching and will have him back full time! Isn't that how is it with kids....once you figure it out, time to change it up again :)
Here is a glimpse of the day...
5:30 am
Alarm goes off and I am up to get ready before Turner wakes up
Hopefully he is still sleeping...if not, Tate snuggles/plays with him until 6
6-7 am
Nurse Turner, get him ready for the day, pump anything else out that he didn't eat since I look like Dolly Parton in the morning.
7-7:15 am
Leave for work
7:30 am - 4:15 pm
Work. Pump 3 times through out the day. 3 days a week I try to hit up the gym during lunch
(just for lifting...no cardio as I don't want to sweat since I have to go back to work).
5-5:30 pm
Get home from picking up Turner
5:30 - 6 pm
Play with my lil' guy!
6-6:30 pm
Nurse or feed him a bottle, then pump if bottle option was picked or forced ;)
6:30-7:30 pm
Bath time, read books, play, etc.
7:30 pm
Bed time for Turner
7:30-9:30 pm
Here is my 2 hours of the day to get anything I need to get done. It usually consist of making & eating dinner, showering, cleaning/picking up the house, making lunches for the next day, laundry/diapers, spend time with Tate if he's home (& he helps out with all things that need to be done from above).
9:30 pm
Wake Turner to feed him another bottle, change diaper and then put right back to bed to sleep
9:45 pm
Pump
10:30 pm
Bed time
Tate will usually do the 9:30 feeding since he doesn't get to see him much through out the day. Sometime I like to do it. I actually love doing all things for Turner since my time through out the day is so limited with him, but I know I need to share so Daddy can have time with him also.
The thing I struggle with is writing down my list of things I want to get done...and then getting mad at myself for not getting any of it done. I'll put so much on there that's not physically possible to get it all done...but of course I would love to!
I have found that in order to 'balance' it all, I need to learn to let things go. Who cares if the house is dirty. Who cares that the office still isn't organized and hasn't been for 6 months. Turner is only this small for once. I need to keep reminding myself this and know that these things don't matter to him at all. He just wants his mom to be there for him!
So being there for him is what I am going to do. So you decide to come visit and dog hair is on the floor, the house looks like it hasn't been dusted for weeks and dishes are piling up...it's because I have a baby...a baby who needs his mama more than the house needing to be cleaned!
It's the life of a mom and a life I wouldn't want any other way!
Linking up with Kristin with baby talk Tuesday!!!
I'm still learning on how to balance it all right now. I feel like once I figure it out is when Tate will be done coaching and will have him back full time! Isn't that how is it with kids....once you figure it out, time to change it up again :)
Here is a glimpse of the day...
5:30 am
Alarm goes off and I am up to get ready before Turner wakes up
Hopefully he is still sleeping...if not, Tate snuggles/plays with him until 6
6-7 am
Nurse Turner, get him ready for the day, pump anything else out that he didn't eat since I look like Dolly Parton in the morning.
7-7:15 am
Leave for work
7:30 am - 4:15 pm
Work. Pump 3 times through out the day. 3 days a week I try to hit up the gym during lunch
(just for lifting...no cardio as I don't want to sweat since I have to go back to work).
5-5:30 pm
Get home from picking up Turner
5:30 - 6 pm
Play with my lil' guy!
6-6:30 pm
Nurse or feed him a bottle, then pump if bottle option was picked or forced ;)
6:30-7:30 pm
Bath time, read books, play, etc.
7:30 pm
Bed time for Turner
7:30-9:30 pm
Here is my 2 hours of the day to get anything I need to get done. It usually consist of making & eating dinner, showering, cleaning/picking up the house, making lunches for the next day, laundry/diapers, spend time with Tate if he's home (& he helps out with all things that need to be done from above).
9:30 pm
Wake Turner to feed him another bottle, change diaper and then put right back to bed to sleep
9:45 pm
Pump
10:30 pm
Bed time
Tate will usually do the 9:30 feeding since he doesn't get to see him much through out the day. Sometime I like to do it. I actually love doing all things for Turner since my time through out the day is so limited with him, but I know I need to share so Daddy can have time with him also.
The thing I struggle with is writing down my list of things I want to get done...and then getting mad at myself for not getting any of it done. I'll put so much on there that's not physically possible to get it all done...but of course I would love to!
I have found that in order to 'balance' it all, I need to learn to let things go. Who cares if the house is dirty. Who cares that the office still isn't organized and hasn't been for 6 months. Turner is only this small for once. I need to keep reminding myself this and know that these things don't matter to him at all. He just wants his mom to be there for him!
So being there for him is what I am going to do. So you decide to come visit and dog hair is on the floor, the house looks like it hasn't been dusted for weeks and dishes are piling up...it's because I have a baby...a baby who needs his mama more than the house needing to be cleaned!
It's the life of a mom and a life I wouldn't want any other way!
Linking up with Kristin with baby talk Tuesday!!!
You're doing s great job mama!!
ReplyDeleteBalance is definitely the thing I struggle with the most - trying to be a good mom, wife, employee, daughter, friend and God forbid have some time to take care of myself too! I've tried really hard to not sweat over the small stuff, but it seems like the small stuff (like dog hair) are the things that get me the most. I think all new moms should just be gifted a chef & maid for the first year. :)
ReplyDeleteYou are doing an amazing job, Bridget!! Turner is such a happy baby and you're right, being there for him is all he/you need at this time. I need to take this advice myself more often, too - I need to let go, too, and not sweat the mall stuff too much. This balancing act continues beyond the baby stages, you just have to learn to adjust and then readjust. It's not easy and no one has the perfect answer on how to handle it all, but we all manage and get through!
ReplyDeleteyou have adjusted so well and are rockin it!
ReplyDeleteYes, once you have it all figured out, it will definitely be time to change it up again. I am mostly a single Mom, too, so I get you. Mine isn't just during the fall, it's year round. Although he's home in the mornings to help with Hailey and at least drops her off at school most of the time, he works evenings. So EVERYTHING from the time I leave work, pick Hailey up from school, dinner, play time, bath time, bed time, etc is all up to me. It's good to keep a to do list, but don't beat yourself up over it. You have your priorities straight and that's what really counts.
ReplyDeleteLove reading your blog, Turner is adorable and I think you are ROCKING this momma thing. Turner looks happy and you look amazing. Yes, lots of snuggles and take some time for yourself, even if its an uninterrupted trip to Target. You deserve it.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness just reading this makes me feel tired! I don't think anyone would think twice of dog hair on the floor! You have a lot on your plate!
ReplyDeleteLooks like you are finding a new normal! Props to you mama! {new follower from MN}
ReplyDeleteyou are so right, when things are all in place and things are "normal" life changes it up once again!!
ReplyDeleteI can SOOOO relate to this post, I feel like I wrote it. I am a working momma who has the same NEED for a clean house, but am trying to deal better! It sounds like you are doing an awesome job!
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